Posted by fallsfall on August 11, 2004, at 16:55:47
In reply to All right then. Since I understand... » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on August 11, 2004, at 11:44:42
Dinah,
Will you be my therapist, please? What I really want to hear from him is that he understands what I am trying to tell him. He doesn't have to agree with it, but I do wish that he could understand. Once I knew he understood, then we could discuss the assumptions that we both base our thinking on, and maybe we would get somewhere. But until I know that he understands I feel like I have to keep explaining it.
This is such hard work for us to be doing - and I do hope that at some point we will be successful. I also understand that my *need* for him to understand before I can talk about the assumptions is something that I would be happier if I could change.
Being understood is a wonderful gift.
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