Posted by Dinah on August 11, 2004, at 1:16:31
In reply to This ruffled my feathers, but I am combing them, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 11, 2004, at 0:38:39
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> Okay, now, what about therapy? How much can I change from therapy? I can't change from a three headed dragon slayer into a butterfly internally. I am what I am and I intend on accepting the differences. Maybe, I am a just a bird with different feathering hmmmm
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> Thoughts or feelings about these paragraphs anyone?Just my thoughts of course, for whatever they're worth. :)
As to whether therapy can change the brain itself, I think it's Pfinstegg who has some interesting studies relating to that. I'm not sure what to google, or I'd try to look up her old posts, but it sounds familiar.
But to a certain extent, I think we all have to accept who we are. Not just realize it, but truly accept it. Sometimes we bring concerns about my son to his pediatrician, and he fusses at us that my son is who he is. He's introverted and sensitive and those things are just fine. Don't try to make him into something that he's not. I think that hearing him say that about someone else, and someone I admire and respect as much as I admire and respect my son especially, gave me a bit of a shove towards self acceptance.
I have never suffered severe abuse, but whether through nature or nurture, I am who I am. I'll never be quite like the "normal" person, whatever that is. And that's ok. My happiness set point is probably a bit lower than a euthymic person, and that's ok too. I react very poorly to stress, and... well ok - I'd like to react better to stress. But I do accept that my emotional arousal is quick and slow to subside. Especially that darn adrenaline. I don't figure I'll ever change that, just work around it.
I dunno. That's just my take on it. And while it may *sound* pessimistic, it doesn't *feel* especially pessimistic.
poster:Dinah
thread:376265
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