Posted by gardenergirl on August 10, 2004, at 3:03:32
In reply to oh yeah..., posted by Joslynn on August 9, 2004, at 23:07:14
Thanks for sharing your situation. It's nice to hear from so many that they wouldn't like being told what she said, either. It sounds like you have a really good arrangement. I'm glad that is working for you. And I love your "imprinting" metaphor. That's great!
Sigh, about idealization...yeah, that *is* a defense mechanism, but it often is a key part of transference. And heck, when you mention an alcoholic father, it certainly comes to my mind that most of those I idealize are male. Perhaps that's why I reacted so strongly to this woman...maybe she's the mother...Hmmm. But I think you have to have some of this in order to work through it. I suppose your T was cautious maybe in part out of some countertransference, but also because she's not in the room, and may not realize how it may be helping???
Take care,
gg
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