Posted by 64bowtie on August 6, 2004, at 2:07:37
In reply to Re: The King-Baby Complex, posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 5, 2004, at 21:44:49
Shadow,
Thank you so much for your post. I was tired and stumbling around in my foggy memories.
You nailed it... What a miserable sub-person they must be (perhaps excluding your Dad). These stories are chilling. Do you see a connection to the "elephant in the living room" puzzle? This fable is also pervasive amongst 12 step folks.
Goes like this: When you go visit this family down the street, you enter the living room and everyone goes single file hugging the wall to avoid the elephant in the living room. When you ask, "Doesn't anyone care that you have an elephant living in your house?", much to your surprize, everyone disregards your question or claims you are delusional.
Of course this is a metaphor for the ridiculous situation caused by the likes of a king-baby persona. The negative impact is so overwhelming to the family that they would be better off having the elephant instead. In the movie, What's Eating Gilbert Grape", Mom weighing it at over 600 lbs, who needed to be waited on hand and foot, could be an obvious "Queen-Baby".
You lived it... Any story of resolution to your history is very desirable... You are in my prayers...
Rod
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