Posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 12:25:37
In reply to Re: Care-free comfort » B2chica, posted by AuntieMel on August 2, 2004, at 11:37:17
((((AuntieMel))))
>> Who was it that said 'happiness isn't getting what you want, it's wanting what you get?' So true, so true.
boy, isn't that the truth.
>>Which leaves me with knowing I don't like how I feel, have a reasonable definition for what it should be, but have no idea how to get from point A to point B. And wanting an instruction book.
I think i believe it best that everyone make their own happiness. i personally don't believe happiness is reliant upon the big things in life. (i had to take it where i could get it growing up). i believe happiness is being able to laugh as well as to cry, to complete something -even if it's just making your bed one morning, to reach a goal (no matter how big or small), to truly understand something, and to experience real nature whether it be putting your fingers in the cool dirt while planting a flower or watching wild animals on the discovery channel, to enjoy yourself (despite ANYone else's words) if it's licking a chocolate chip icecream cone or watching a movie you've wanted to see, but most of all- to me happiness is learning. i guess that's most important to me cuz NO ONE can take that away from me. Learning, even if it's from a not so great experience i turn into good by telling myself i've learned from it and maybe i could even help others avoid it?
-So i guess i'm saying i don't think the point from A to B has to be that far apart. it's ok if their tiny, to me that doesn't make them any less important.>>In many ways I was happier when struggling to get ahead. But it seems to be a bit foolish to just toss it away, especially with two kids in college.
Please excuse my spinning head, i'm not quite sure i understand this last sentence but if i'm interpreting it right...here's my comments.
i don't think happiness is reliant upon ANY timeline or circumstance.
and NEVER toss it away, take it when it comes and relish in it. i think it's priceless.
and i think having two kids in college is something to be proud of and must make your heart at least a little warm...do you feel that? yes dear AuntieMel, to me i think that's happiness.
ok, so maybe it doesn't feel like much to many. but that's how i take it, little bits at a time. like i said i guess i'm just a pessimist and don't believe in the Big Happiness for me.
IMHO
b2c.
here's a couple things to try out to MAKE happiness.
1.go to any store and find the stuffed animal section, pet all of them and find the softest and fuzzyest of them all- pick it up and squeeze it REAL tight 5 times...watch the smile emurge from your lips.
2.think of a dessert that you really like (i'll use icecream) go out to some store and buy one serving for yourself (meaning don't go buy a gallon of icecream, go buy a cone). this way 1)you are getting out of the house 2)you are treating yourself but not binging-so you have no reason to feel badly 3)technically you get a little exercise and 4)this is just for YOU.
3.if you have a pet, set a play date and spend 1/2 hour just doing silly pet games- fetch with dog, string chase with cat...anything to just feel one with your pet.
4.Go to some store and be Super nice to absolutely EVERY one you see (no matter how grumpy they are) put a BIG smile on your face and say hi to strangers, you'd be suprised how contagious it is.
5.buy one of those disposable cameras for $6 and take the whole role of pictures of yourself and bring it to the one hour photo place but stick around to see their faces as they develop them ;^)6.AND MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!!!!!!!!
you MUST GO TO THIS WEBSITE!!!
to me...THIS IS HAPPINESS!!!
http://www.justsaywow.com/smile.htm
if you look closely my picture is at the very bottom, i'm the one with the red lipstick and BIG smile!
Love ya AuntieMel
B2c.
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