Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2004, at 18:22:16
In reply to Re: stopping SI (may trigger) » rubenstein, posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 16:53:56
I agree with B2chica. My therapist is very calm on those occasions when I'm unable to keep the promise. That lets me be honest with him. And he often finds some sort of positive in what happened - maybe that SI'd less than I might have in the past, or I tried other coping mechanisms first. That keeps me from piling too much shame on top of the SI.
And if I hadn't offered, it wouldn't have worked at all. I always refused to promise when it wasn't my choice to promise.
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