Posted by Pfinstegg on August 1, 2004, at 15:34:11
In reply to powerlessness/weakness, posted by shortelise on August 1, 2004, at 14:57:18
I think EVERYONE is naturally dependent on important others. I think a lot of us are self-critical about our dependence- on our therapists, especially. One time, I brought up my fears about how dependent I was becoming on my own T. He said that he felt it was a natural and healthy development- that he would be concerned if it DIDN'T happen. He said he felt there were three kinds of dependence:child-like, mature adult, and pseudo-independence. In other words, everyone, unless they are in denial, is dependent in some way throughout life- it's deep in our natures as primates- unlike other mammal such as tigers. I have felt much more comfortable about my own dependence since then, and do hope you won't beat yourself up about your own. It's especially tough to deal with during termination, I would think.
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