Posted by pegasus on July 23, 2004, at 19:20:27
In reply to Re: email contact after termination » pegasus, posted by gardenergirl on July 23, 2004, at 8:25:18
Hi GG,
I can see why you might think it was counterintuitive. It was confusing for me at first too. But, in my situation, if my former T had not allowed any contact after he moved, I wouldn't have dared risking going into another therapeutic relationship. So, even though it may slow down forming a relationship with the new T, in my case, the alternative was no therapy at all, and feeling betrayed, abandoned, and deeply hurt by my one long-term therapy experience. Therapy would have seemed far too dangerous to risk again. It's only because he allowed me to see that his caring was real and not just by contract, and that my trust in him was not misplaced, that I could even imagine talking to another T again.
I think those who advocate hard and fast rules about never contacting clients after termination are potentially doing a grave misservice to those clients. There are situations where I think contact is the only ethical choice. On my end, I don't even know that I would have survived under those cirucumstances.
pegasus
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