Posted by pinkeye on July 14, 2004, at 19:35:50
In reply to Re: Is it ok to ask this to your T? » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on July 14, 2004, at 19:18:51
Thanks Dinah.
You know I envy all of you guys who get to meet your T so much (in a nice way of course). My T is sitting 20000 miles apart and I can't talk to him/see him even if I desperately want to. I never had this luxury of being able to tell everything and process and ask all the questions. It was always in a hurry and the rest was through emails. So I could only get the most important thing addressed. I have done very well with that and there isn't much issues left I want to solve, but now I wish I could have some slow paced long term therapy, but my husband does not allow me.
Pinkeye> My therapist always says it's ok to *ask* for *anything* in *any* relationship, but to be prepared to hear a "no" as an answer - or in the case of therapy, be prepared to hear a discussion of why you asked rather than any answer at all. He says it's better than not asking, and not having any chance of getting what you want.
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> (I'm still working on asking the question when I'm not reasonably sure of the answer. I tend not to take risks, but I certainly don't see that as a virtue in myself.)
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