Posted by pinkeye on July 13, 2004, at 12:57:04
In reply to Re: What do I want? (just rambling) » pinkeye, posted by ghost on July 12, 2004, at 23:44:06
Thanks Ghost. Wow, I like your name :-)
The problem is, there was never a honeymoon stage in my marriage. It has been full of problems from day 1, even before marriage. I remember thinking why am I even getting into this marriage even before marriage.
But it was for several reasons, my health, security that I ended up going along with the marriage. And 3 years have passed, but yet the feeling why did I get into it has not passed.
Pinkeye.> i know what you mean, i've been in relationships that often ended just because i wasn't attracted any more... my last significant other was a wonderful person, a sweet and caring person, but we just didn't "click" any more. i often worry if the fact that i get bored easy is a bad sign, or if i just haven't found the right person.
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> 3 years is about when the "fun" newlywed part of the marriage is over, and it's very normal to feel the way you feel. it's just a matter now of you sorting out whether or not you're unhappy in your marriage or your husband or what.
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> the question i often ask myself in these relationships is "do i love this person? and if i do, am i *IN* love with this person?" loving and being in love are two different things, i think.
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> good luck...
> ghost
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