Posted by steelmagnolia25 on July 10, 2004, at 18:49:36
In reply to Re: Did he call back?, posted by Dinah on July 7, 2004, at 13:19:15
Now I have to apologize...I've not been checking the board for several days. :(
He did not call right away; I learned that he was out of town and since I wouldn't deem this as an "emergency" he didn't get the message until he returned the next day. Even then, I didn't wait for a call back. I was still very angry so I called him about 2 minutes after his office opened and vented to him over the phone. I basically told him that I felt the termination had as much to do with his feelings as with my own, and that instead of feeling like I'd graduated from therapy I felt like I'd been "suspended" due to my attraction. He was extremely professional, which was somewhat maddening, and he asked if it would be "useful" for me to see him again. In response, I told him that I know (1) that I need to continue counseling with someone, and (2) that I'm still very angry with how he handled the situation. I told him that I needed to vent even more, and the only question is whether he could handle it or if he would recommend someone else. He said he'd like to see me again to work through it.
I went to see him a few days later and the session, unbelievably, went well. He was much nicer in the therapy room and he stated that he agreed the termination several weeks ago went horribly and he'd doubted himself concerning that. I felt very strong because I was able to look him in the eyes and say, "my top priority is my mental health. Anything that threatens to get in the way of my health needs to removed or dealt with." We agreed that I would begin seeing a different therapist, a woman, and I will only go to see him 3 more times. We already have a set date for the official termination and I think there's a possibility I may even meet with the new T before that.
Overall, I'm happy with the result.
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