Posted by Pfinstegg on July 10, 2004, at 9:44:54
In reply to Re: Do you and your t. say l love you ever?, posted by NVDeb on July 10, 2004, at 6:26:15
It sounds as though your therapy is becoming a very deep and meaningful experience to you- that's wonderful! As to telling your T. tht you love her, I'd say, if you feel it, say it. I have told my T. that i love him a number of times. He doesn't say that back to me, but says things like, "I'm glad you're able to feel that, and tell me", or " it feels like you're feeling really safe and securely attached right now". He's reflecting on why I'm feeling that way at a particular time; I don't think I want or expect him to say that he also loves me; I just want to have the feeling that he is glad to have *all* of me in there working with him.
I go to an analyst, and hugs are not in his repertoire- just handshakes before breaks. However, there are people on this board who do hug their therapists. If you look back in the Psychobabble archives, you'll find what a range of experiences people have had. You'll be able to find, through your own experience, what works best for you.
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