Posted by shadows721 on July 8, 2004, at 13:46:55
In reply to disturbing dream means???***possible trigger***, posted by B2chica on July 8, 2004, at 12:15:18
It sounds like some of your memory content is coming up in your dreams. I've had this too.
Your freezing is a totally normal response. It was a shock. Like, "What the H** is this person doing to me"? The Boss represents the abuser. He was in a position of power. He overstepped his boundaries and yours.
No, you didn't want this to happen. A child doesn't do things like this. You didn't even know of such a thing existed. He DID and he crossed that line. Children blame themselves for adults actions. They internalize the shame that the abuser SHOULD have. Adults take advantage of children and not the other way around. Abusers like to twist it to that the children made them do it. They never want to be accountable for these sick deeds.
What this person did to you was wrong, B2. You were a child. Children don't make adults do things like this. The body responds to touch. Children love to be held and talked to, but not this! This is abuse. The freezing tells you it was. Your body spoke loud and clear with the freezing by saying, "He is doing something really bad to me."
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