Posted by pegasus on July 8, 2004, at 12:39:41
In reply to reassurance, posted by thewrite1 on July 8, 2004, at 0:14:16
My old T would sometimes reassure me, but not when it was just about reassurance. He used to always say that he wanted to provide evidence that opposed my negative thinking about myself.
For example, once I was describing an old boyfriend who had a big list of physical attributes he didn't like about me. My T responded by saying, "But <my husband> isn't like that, right?" When I said my husband thinks I'm beautiful and sexy (which is kind of incredible to me, but true), my T just gave me a satisfied smile. So, he wouldn't tell me he thought I looked fine, but he also gave me an alternate view that my appearance is acceptable. Which was reassuring.
pegasus
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