Posted by daisym on June 30, 2004, at 14:46:47
In reply to Re: Is my therapist right for me? » littlep24, posted by partlycloudy on June 30, 2004, at 13:32:33
This can be really sticky because you have to evaluate how close to the facts you are sticking when you discuss things. It is hard for an individual therapist to do marriage counseling with only one half of the marriage in attendance.
I have a very sick husband. I know most of the time what drives him and why he treats me the way he does, both good and bad. We talk about my reactions and feelings in therapy a lot. I've made it clear that while I don't think it is particularly nice or fair of me to complain about my spouse, my therapist is MY thrapist and I want/need him to help ME. Even if it means "siding" with me sometimes, or offering sympathy.
I think you should tell her about how you feel and your ambivalence. It isn't unusual to feel bad when you perceive criticism of a loved one. Sort of like brothers and sisters when we were little. I could call them names but if someone else tried it...watch out!
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