Posted by daisym on June 30, 2004, at 14:37:38
In reply to Re: Can anyone recommend a good book about... » rockymtnhi, posted by lookdownfish on June 30, 2004, at 9:56:49
LDF,
When ever I start thinking about ending or cutting back on therapy, it is a pretty big signal that we are close to something painful. Or, I've gone into the eye of the storm and want to just sit in this peace (though ominous on all sides) for a while.
If you revisit the goals you have for therapy, and the reasons why you started, you might be able to lay out for yourself when you will know you are done. My therapist's answer is always, "you'll know." I hate that! But maybe he is right. We do have to look at all the factors about choosing to continue.
Sometimes we only want to scratch the surface. There isn't anything wrong with that if you feel OK, not fragile and like you are moving in the right direction. I've heard cutting back contact as a recommended strategy for "testing" to see if you are ready.
Oh yeah, my therapist also likes to remind me that it is OK to "just" need support now and then You don't ALWAYS have to be working on an issue to get something out of therapy. This is a particularly hard concept for me. My director's brain goes into to overdrive about making every minute count and solving problems as quickly as possible.
Keep talking to her about this. It sounds really important.
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