Posted by lucy stone on June 17, 2004, at 8:42:55
In reply to I think my mom would go, posted by Dinah on June 17, 2004, at 7:52:44
I'm going to go against the consensus and I say that I think it might not be a great idea. I wonder if it really necessary for your T to see them in action. Are you sure that he has not fully grasped their reality? My in-laws are truly dreadful and have caused me and my husband great pain. We both explore our relationship with them in our therapies. I don't think my T needs to meet them in person in order for him to know what they are like, because I have explored their actions so much with him. Perhaps you could talk more with your T about this specific issue, that you think he does not fully grasp what they are like. If he doesn't, you need to know why. It sounds a bit deceptive to me, telling your mom that you want her to go to a session to talk about you as a teen, while your real reason is to let the T see what she is really like. I know my T would not participate in a session like that. I am not defending toxic parents, since I have seen the harm they can do in my own husband, but it seems like this might not be the best way to approach your problem. After all, the important thing is not what your mother is like, but it's about the effect on you.
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