Posted by gardenergirl on June 5, 2004, at 18:02:35
In reply to Transference? Me? Cannot be happening., posted by Poet on June 5, 2004, at 14:43:33
Poet,
I had the same reaction to discovering I was in transference with my T. In fact, I said to him, "Holy Transference, Bat Man!" It helps that I feel I can speak rather freely in psychological short hand at times. Although that may also be a way for me to find some emotional distance from it, now that I think about it. Hmmmm.I just wanted to reassure you. Transference feels really weird when you figure out that's what's happening. Given the reputation that has developed about psychotherapy and transference neurosis, and given the way it has been portrayed in the media, of course it would feel like a bad thing. I thought at the time, how can this happen to me? I know about transference, so how can I "fall into that trap?". But it's not a trap. It's not a blunder to act in a way that leads up to the conclusion. Your brain is not warped. I would say you are allowing yourself to experience an old pattern with your T in order to work through it. That's a good thing! But feels weird.
And I also had that feeling of comfort that I was glad it is not an erotic transference. I look at my T and think, no way. But I know that happens. Right now I'll stick with parental.
;)
Take care!
gg
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