Posted by karen_kay on May 28, 2004, at 15:58:42
In reply to I'm a sponge and at my saturation point, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 28, 2004, at 10:18:31
i'm just like that miss honey. i completely take on other people's emotions. when someone is frustrated, i too become frustrated. when i see someone hurting, it hurts me. this causes alot of stress in my life. it was addressed briefly in group last week (about taking on other people's problems and homeless) but he didn't offer a solution. just said i need to take care of myself before worrying so much about other people. and what's worse, i even get upset when i feel i don't worry enough about other people.
but, i realize what my problem stems from. i don't face and solve my problems like i should. instead, i worry about other people and i empathize with them, i think as an attempt to run from my own. and i can rationalize in my head that 'oh, my problems aren't that bad, as these people are suffering so much more than i am. i can feel for these people and empathize with them.' yet, i can't feel anything about my own personal problems and situations. perhaps one day? just know miss honey, i feel your pain dear.
oh! and one thing that really gets me!!! when someone gets upset, but gets past it very quickly, their feelings stay with me for days! ie: my boyfriend can have a bad day at work, come home and slam the door, throw something and be done with it. i'm shaking for days, even when i had a great day, just because he slammed a door and threw a pop can. sheesh! some people never learn how they can effect others!
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