Posted by LostGirl on May 16, 2004, at 21:57:53
In reply to Re: Therapist's expression, posted by pegasus on May 16, 2004, at 14:13:32
Thanks for asking. I have mentioned it - that she is smiling - and she denies it. The reason why I don't click with her is she is very long-winded, goes into very protracted explanations with far-fetched analogies and rephrasing the same thing multiple clever ways, and grinning at, I believe, how clever she thinks she is. She really likes to hear herself talk. It is very disconcerting to me, especially when I am sad or struggling with something. The long-windedness makes me lose what I was feeling, and makes me feel unconnected to her. I have mentioned a few times that she is smiling and that it is disconcerting. She denies she is and I say yes, you are. Then I move on.
The thing is, I came to her in a time of crisis -sick dying father, crazy Alzheimer's mother suddenly my responsibility, etc. and she was good about all the concrete things which was what I needed. Helped me deal with all the decision making and stress of it all. She was also good, for the most part, with intense stuff with my acting out teenage son. But I never clicked with her the way I did with the former one who I had an incredible connection with, but then he forgot to tell me about his vacation. That's a whole other long story. Leaving him over that tore me up. So maybe I tolerated not being able to connect strongly with this one becasue I didn't want to let myself get that attached again. And she usually makes sense, somewhere in all those words and grins.
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