Posted by Dinah on May 12, 2004, at 8:19:55
In reply to Update *sigh*, posted by Aphrodite on May 6, 2004, at 14:41:03
It wasn't a quick task for me, I'll tell you that. But working on it again and again eventually paid off.
Your perception of what the problem is is important. You may be perceiving something that is partially or completely true about your therapist. Or you may be misperceiving based on your own feelings about feeling. It sounds like it would be an interesting session.
It's possible that he does enjoy the intellectual stimulation of talking with you in your most efficient and capable mode. While he still realizes that that's not what you're in therapy to "fix" and is equally to see you when you're feeling raw and vulnerable because he sees that as an important step in your progress.
Or it's possible that he is so happy at having someone functioning at a very high level that he is somehow telegraphing that to you subtly.
Or it's possible that, for example, you were used to having tears and weakness met with coldness, so you fear he'll respond with aloofness when that isn't really what he's feeling at all.
Perhaps you could bring your post into him next session (put it on word and make it sound like a journal if you're not admitting to Babble) and explore the issue together. I've found that sometimes my therapist will say the most interesting things when I ask him things like that. It's an important topic worth devoting part of a session to.
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