Posted by crushedout on May 6, 2004, at 21:34:34
In reply to thanks, dinah (nm), posted by crushedout on May 6, 2004, at 9:26:11
I told her how much pain I'd been in, but that I'd realized some important stuff. Like that I don't want to push her away and make her end up rejecting me. That I'd felt on Tuesday like I'd lost her, or was about to lose her, and I didn't want that to happen. That I'd realized (thanks to Dinah, Rigby, and others) that the cutting was too intertwined with our relationship so it was *not* like the drugs (which never really had anything to do with her) and that in order for our relationship to work, I had to stop. And so I'd stopped. I'd made the decision to stop.
She got tears in her eyes and so did I and she thanked me and said she appreciated that I cared that much about our relationship to do that.
The crazy thing is she brought up the possibility of adding a third session and using it to do DBT. I just think that's crazy because the second I stop pushing, I actually get what I want.
I learned so much (I really did) over the past couple days, mostly from you guys, so thank you. I hope I'm not deluding myself, but I think I have a whole new way of thinking about this. I really think things will be different than ever before. I feel sort of melancholy today, but much, much better than I have been.
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