Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2004, at 13:03:20
In reply to Depressed- it's time to give up, posted by Poet on April 29, 2004, at 11:15:21
Poet, I'm so sorry. I remember how excited you were to get this job, and how many hopes you had for it. It must really hurt that it didn't work out. I know it's probably too early to tell you this, but there will be other jobs. Ones that are a good fit for you.
And your husband does *not* see you as someone whose worth is measured by the mortgage contribution you make. You are sooo much more than that. I remember once crying to my husband that I was worthless to him because he was the primary breadwinner and I couldn't contribute my fair share. He got so angry with me!
It's a lot of changes at once. Anyone would be shook by that, and we're probably more likely to be shaken than most. Treat yourself with gentleness and kindness right now. It's not only the right thing to do for yourself, but it's also the pragmatic thing to do. Try to resist the urges, call your therapist if you need to. Do you have a psychiatrist or family doctor who can help you with some medications to help you get some sleep? Lack of sleep makes all situations look even worse than they are.
If you need contact to stay focussed, post away here, call a friend, ask us to meet you in Open. Sometimes connection with others helps keep the brain from twisting on itself in continuous futile loops that see only despair and not hope. My therapist is so good at helping me gently untangle the knots of my thoughts. Is yours?
Everything will work out, maybe not as you intended, but it will work out ok. Deep breath. Inhale, two, three, four. Hold, two, three, four. Exhale, two, three, four.
poster:Dinah
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