Posted by DaisyM on April 23, 2004, at 17:13:42
In reply to Update......, posted by emmaley on April 23, 2004, at 15:55:18
A quick response to your post because I'm running but I WANT to come back again later...
Not all females are warm and nurturing. When I was interviewing I met two -- one "ran" her company she had built up (like I do) and so I was excited that she would "get" me. Turned out that she was amazingly competitive with my leadership skills and I spent 3 weeks "proving" I could still do my job. I quickly decided this was a bad fit. Another woman Therapist I met was a nurse first and "TOTALLY" understood all the health crap I have to deal with in my household. She told me, in the first session, that I needed to unload my life before I killed myself. Now, this is true but I felt criticized and never went back.
Desperate I called my friend who is a retired Therapist. I thought I wanted a woman. But she referred me to my Therapist now. HE is very gentle, very warm and nurturing and I've told him things I never expected to. He's only pushy about me using him for support. :)
Just a friendly warning - I don't think it is gender. I think it is who they are and for me, having a ton of experience working with csa.
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