Posted by Medusa on April 23, 2004, at 2:37:29
In reply to Group therapy crush, posted by tabitha on April 22, 2004, at 23:46:16
> Tonight in my individual session we talked about my little crush on a group member,
>Hey, at least it's just one member. When I saw your thread topic, it sounded like maybe a crush on the group as an entity. Which would have been quite a swing from some of your previous experiences.
That aside ... what's in it for you if you bring this up? Is it possible that you'll find solutions or alternatives for the hyper-sensitivity, hurt, expectations, need for attention, reminders of past hurt, and critical feelings?
Does it ever work for you to re-direct crushes? For me, it would be easier to discuss a crush (with the person present, wow!) if it were in the past (even just a few days) and I'd re-focused on someone else. I can't seem to crush at all any more, but when I could, it was interesting to play around with it. Maybe that's what weaned me in the end. Pity. I was never fitter than the season when I worked up a fake crush on someone at the gym. Now I have to exercise just for the mental benefits.
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