Posted by LG04 on April 20, 2004, at 12:42:52
In reply to Article on Dependency, posted by DaisyM on April 18, 2004, at 18:45:16
Hi Daisy,
I will read it and tell you my thoughts.I also struggle with dependency/attachment on my therapist. She works with it, as you talked about it, rather than trying to minimize contact. I am also mortified sometimes by the intensity of my needs towards her and I also often feel intrusive, though she reassures me time and time again that I am not. I am beginning to understand where this feeling comes from, that I felt it from my mom. That's a lot of the reason why I feel so frustrated/embarassed when there is background noise from her kids when I call, because it's as if verifying that I am intruding.
To make matters worse, I am trying to decide whether to stay where I have been living for 3 years (in Jerusalem, Israel) or move back to the United States where I am from. My therapist is so amazing and I've only been with her for two years. I am so reluctant to leave her, sometimes even terrified. but I have a lot of reasons for wanting to move back home. I might start a new thread on this to get some feedback from others on this issue. Is dependency/attachment on a therapist enough of a reason to stay here? (it's not the only reason I'd stay, in fact I think sometimes it makes me feel like a reason NOT to stay, because it would prove how attached I am to her and I want to feel that I can leave if I want and be okay). It's confusing.
Anyway I'll read the article, thank you for finding it for me. Sounds like we have a lot in common. This is a great forum.
LG
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