Posted by spoc on April 19, 2004, at 14:03:57
In reply to Re: Therapist Questions On Sexuality » spoc, posted by Rigby on April 19, 2004, at 13:47:54
So glad I could suggest another light to cast things in! If it hadn't been for the notion of examining out loud how serious you are about it in head, I too probably would have defaulted to saying "Hmmmmm..... Maybe not!!" But I hate to leave stones unturned that could even possibly help me. And the patient themself may often not be the best judge of when fantasies are important. Regardless, you'll probably get a feeling right away if she's taking it too far ("...you mean, with your right hand or your left?" kind of thing, ha ha), and from there you can trust your instincts! It does sound by your answer just now that you are quite sure the fantasies are full-range and not just naive/idealistic (such as in reality based only on what is a personality click to where this is mainly a person you'd simply like to be close to). So tons of detail shouldn't be *as* necessary when you proceed to answer the question. Best wishes! :- )
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> Hi Spoc! Thanks for your message. Interesting. I think you make an interesting point about possibly trying to understand how well thought out my feelings and intentions are (extremely specific and well thought out, actually.) It at least has made me think about my level of desire with her simply asking--so not sure what her intentions were but maybe it has been helpful either way. Thanks again for your post!
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