Posted by pegasus on April 18, 2004, at 17:24:03
In reply to Re: Distractions when talking on the phone with T » pegasus, posted by LG04 on April 18, 2004, at 16:33:03
Hmm. Well, that's different. So, you actually have an appointment to talk to her on the phone at a specific time, then, right? Is it possible that sometimes she doesn't have a quieter room to go into? For example, maybe her family is being noisy in all available rooms? My house is like that. If things are noisy, there tends not to be anywhere quiet to retreat to. But, who knows about your T.
You said she seemed frustrated. Did she say anything about why it wasn't possible to move to a more quiet room sometimes? Are you paying for these calls ? (My thinking being that if you are, then you have more leverage for asking for conditions that work for you. Otherwise, she's already giving you her free time, which it sounds like she'd otherwise be spending with her family. I tend to be super respectful of that, because I think being a T would be a very demanding job.)
It does seem confusing, though. And I can see why you'd be annoyed that the chaos in her home has to become part of your therapy.
I'm probably not the best person to give you feedback, though. I've never called a T at home, and only a couple of times have had a T call me back from their home. One of those times my T was watching his one year old, who at one point was babbling pretty much directly into the phone. My T was annoyed about this, but I thought it was super cute. And I loved getting a little experience of his home life.
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