Posted by Dinah on April 17, 2004, at 13:31:10
In reply to Confused, unhappy, upset...ashamed. (long), posted by Raindancer on April 17, 2004, at 13:02:58
Don't be ashamed! You were honest with your therapist, completely honest. That's what therapy is supposed to be, so you should be feeling proud at a job well done.
If you're not ready to leave therapy, you're not ready. And they're not mind readers. In the end, you can judge that better than he can. You've had a lot of losses, and you aren't ready for another one. Nothing to be ashamed of there, either.
I'm never leaving my therapist of my own free will. There aer other therapists out there even if he were fully booked. I'm not depriving anyone else by having my needs met. Do you feel like his suggestion for spacing of sessions will meet your needs? Is he willing to be flexible about it? Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. The worst that can happen is that you can hear no.
OK, that's what my therapist always says, but I think it's cr*p. Hearing no from someone who means a lot to you feels awful.
So maybe you could explore the subject without actually asking the question and see what his attitudes are.
And don't worry about feeling needy and attached. If we weren't we wouldn't be in therapy to begin with.
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