Posted by platinumbride on April 12, 2004, at 13:27:36
In reply to Compassion of Convenience, posted by Speaker on April 10, 2004, at 10:15:14
Speaker,
I think your T perhaps made a slight, but forgivable error by mentioning that while you were feeling very vulnerable. Perhaps HE has had trouble in his own experience as a T with setting and/or maintaining boundaries with clients and just gave a little speech that he has taught himself or has been advised to give. Many compassionate people do have that as an issue, as I am sure many of us can attest to.
I think, however, that if you don't address it, you will feel impeded and angry at him...and those feelings won't help at all...especially if you "forget about them". Because even if you do choose to just let it slide, it will always be present on a subconscious level.
My guess is that he has to know that you are not one who abuses priveleges, but that he made a faux pas. And he only made a faux pas because he is human. So if the relationship, on the whole, is really pretty good, it is worth forgiving but only after addressing. The addressing has to do with YOUR needs and YOUR progress. I imagine that issues similar to this bare present in your "real life", and when the day is done, it will probably be of great help to you, both in your therapy and your day to day dealings with people.
If I am way out of line in making suggestions, I apologize. Of course I don't know you and am just making guesses. (That's my little disclaimer in case my two-cents are way off base or in a currency different from your own ha ha).
Good luck....because this could ultimately orove to be a good thing. :-)
Diane
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