Posted by fallsfall on April 1, 2004, at 8:43:37
In reply to Re: HOLIDAYS AND VACATIONS :-( » fallsfall, posted by Fallen4myT on March 31, 2004, at 21:22:48
The only thing that has allowed me to even marginally survive through vacations is that I know very strongly (intellectually) that he DESERVES a vacation. And that he NEEDS a vacation. This is the one time when his needs come before mine. He puts my needs first all the rest of the time, so when he's on vacation I try my very hardest NOT to fall apart - because to me if I fall apart I am saying that he can NEVER put his needs first, and I don't think that is a fair thing to say.
In the past, I have scheduled sessions with (present or past) group leaders. Or even with other professionals who "help" me (pdoc, GP, accountant, lawyer). This makes me feel more "taken care of", so I can survive not having my therapist take care of me better.
And, of course, Post early and often to Babble - we will try to fill the gap for you.
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