Posted by 64Bowtie on March 30, 2004, at 12:33:22
In reply to Re: Poet: My 'hack' may have left you high and dry » 64Bowtie, posted by Dinah on March 30, 2004, at 8:12:25
(((Dinah))), I seemed to have struck a nerve. Hang in there. I'm always on your side.
I am defiantly advocating that we embrace our whole being; our warts and all!!! Yes, we have an inner child. Embrace it. Cure it. Love it. Stay alive so it can live. Just don't waste our time living vicariously THROUGH our inner child. First, we are adults. We know how to behave like both a child and an adult. Which one works and which one is a failure?
Most inner child linked behavior is what gets us in trouble. If we got a dose of bad parenting growing up, how can we see the difference? (and 80% of us did statistically). Adults no longer have to act like children. As an adult, be the good parent of our own inner child. And don't make our inner child a malatropic scapegoat forcing us to magically misbehave and ruin our lives. A questions I ask clients is, "Do you believe in magic or do you believe in options?" Another is, "Do you believe in expectations or do you believe in plans and goals?"
All of us please, don't quiet our hurting by killing our inner child who is crying out in pain for relief. Ya' see, since our inner child is part of us, if we kill the inner child, we kill ourselves. Catch22...
Rod
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