Posted by 64Bowtie on March 27, 2004, at 15:24:31
In reply to Safe Places for Inner Children, posted by Poet on March 27, 2004, at 14:39:00
> Does anyone else have a safe place for their inner child?
>
<<<Perhaps you can honor your adult skills and attributes by accepting that you can see your childhood drama-trauma much more clearly since you have better equipment than you did as a child. You also have much more history to compare it all to.A drill that I've seen clients put through encourages them to see themselves in the midst of the incident. Then to evaluate the feelings of the incident from memory (scarey, painful, etc.). Then to see themslves out-of-body across the room.
From this new vantage point, they do know something painful is going on but the pain is not clouding their vision. With their out-of-body vision, they can learn and discover. From that moment, they now can process the memory and find reslolution. Before, the pain, and avoidance of pain, blocked the learning and discovery; for many people, forever!
Remember, avoidance is only a bad habit. However, it is the key to the collection of bad habits known as dysfunction. Our denial keeps this key out of reach. Chronic indecision covers it up with distractions so we can't find it.
Rod
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