Posted by DaisyM on March 24, 2004, at 20:18:55
In reply to Re:Re: Marinoff and 'philosophical counseling' » DaisyM, posted by 64Bowtie on March 24, 2004, at 16:09:28
But do you agree or disagree that we need to work on conflicts with interpersonal skills? Or, do you think if we "fix" ourselves, these conflicts will be less likely to happen?
I'm pretty OK by myself, and actually, in a big crowd. It is with a few, close friends that I get squirrelly about protecting myself or knowing what to cling to and what to resist (ideas that conflict with mine).
As far as a right of passage, I think if parents gave praise and "rewards" for things done well, not just brave attempts (consider developmental stages, please!) then I think young people would internalize the confidence needed to make decisions based on your balance of thinking and feeling. I think they are given messages over and over to make them feel good but these messages don't resonant with their intellect. Thus, they don't trust either their intellect or their feelings. Or both (make no decisions at all). They don't learn balance.
So, philosophically speaking, this might be why more people *need* therapy today more now than ever.
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