Posted by pegasus on March 23, 2004, at 16:44:10
In reply to I'm really not liking this..., posted by Karen_kay on March 23, 2004, at 12:23:11
Hi KK,
(BTW I'm glad you're back, too, but I'm also glad that you got a good vacation.)
I'm in a group now too, and at first I totally hated it. It seemed like we always talked about one particular person's stuff, because they were always the one who piped up. And I'm fairly shy, especially with new people, so for a while I was feeling like, "Why am I paying my good money and spending my limited time here to listen to this person, who I don't know from Adam, talk about their issues all the time? Isn't this supposed to help me?"
Then after a while the facilitators got a little more assertive about spreading the wealth, and a little more in tune with the needs of individual members (i.e., I needed help butting in), and it all seemed more helpful. Because, in the end, part of my issues do have to do with this dynamic of being shut out.
I don't know if that helps. I know that I'd feel really frustrated in your shoes. Especially because it sounds like you don't have your own individual therapy anymore, to rely on when the group is feeling not helpful, or to discuss how the group feels to you. Which, by the way, seems a little off to me. Don't most people who are in groups also have individual therapy? I know that for my group, we were required to also be in individual therapy. One does not really seem to be a substitute for another, at least in my limited experience.
Can you tell Bubba how you feel? I mean, leave him a message or something. This is not sounding like it's starting off on the right foot. Maybe he'll have some info about where he's hoping to head with the group.
- p
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