Posted by underthecs on March 22, 2004, at 21:30:56
In reply to Therapist Attachment - Help, posted by lonelygirl on March 22, 2004, at 18:52:16
> The problem is that I am feeling more and more attached to him, and I hate it, but the only way to stop it is to stop seeing him
> One thing I have considered is, in a way, sabotaging my relationship with him by getting him to say something that makes me dislike him so that I can stop seeing him without missing him.
Hi... just wanted to let you know that I've done what you're thinking of doing (a lot!), but let me tell you... it doesn't help! It may help in the short run (keeps you pissed off and gives you a reason not to go to therapy), but eventually that anger wears off and, well, you'll still probably miss him. Even more at that point. I don't really have any answers for you, as I'm going through it too... but I've been told that the only way to the other side is "through" not "around"...
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