Posted by Racer on March 21, 2004, at 20:51:28
In reply to Re: Ever wonder why your T is evasive?, posted by EmmyS on March 21, 2004, at 19:00:37
LOL -- I'm a terrible patient, because I have a real problem with the imbalance in physician-patient relationships. With male doctors, especially, I get my back up pretty much from the start: I'll address them by their first names, and if they object, I'll invite them to call my Mrs Racer, rather than using my first name. Their choice. And if they try to tell me that I just need to take a little pill, they can damned well tell me what it's for, how it works, what course I can expect from it, and all the rest.
The first thing I told my pdoc at first meeting was that I don't just sit back and take the medicines -- I need to be an active partner in this, and if he's not willing to work with me, that's his problem and he should see someone about it. I also told him that I was 4.0 for math and science in college, and did my own research on meds once he prescribed them. One of my very most treasured former clients is a pharmacist, and I also check with her about anything I'm not comfortable about. I'm sure he thinks I'm a pain in the @$$ -- and he can work that out with his own therapist.
On the other hand, he is fairly forthcoming when I ask questions about his life -- although he probably has no clue whatsoever how clearly he exposes his own insecurities. It's part of his charm, along with the fact that he lives up to his name: Dr EyeCandy. And while the meds are a nightmare -- so much so I've stopped them all -- and I do think that he's letting his own personal frustrations with me impair his treatment of me, I'd also jump into a vat of green jello with him in a heartbeat, and into bed with him even faster. So, it's a mixed bag by any standard. But at least my eyes are happy in his office...
Emmy S, I really enjoyed your post. I don't know if anyone else was offended by it, but for myself I'm so glad you wrote that. Thank you.
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