Posted by pinkeye on March 12, 2004, at 20:21:22
In reply to Re: Is Sending emails stalking? » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on March 12, 2004, at 20:06:34
> The point is that if you have successfully internalized him, you can keep part of him close to you always.
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> My therapist says that one day I'll be able to think "What would T say about this?" and there will be a little internal T that will supply the answer.
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> But if your goal is to maintain actual contact, that wouldn't apply.Actually I don't need therapeutic contact. I need him personally. See what I am saying?
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> But it is still true that trying to get something that he isn't going to give, for whatever reason, is causing you ongoing pain. Would acceptance cause less pain, or more?
I have tried to accept it and not write any more mails to him.. but I am able to hold on my resolution for 2 weeks only.. after that I find something or the other to write to him.. and somehow convince myself to send him an email.. but immediately feel bad after that.
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