Posted by Dinah on March 9, 2004, at 10:49:20
In reply to Re: Gardenergirl, thank you so much., posted by gardenergirl on March 7, 2004, at 12:58:22
from my therapist. Me too, of course.
I brought him your post, and he thought it explained therapeutic relationship wonderfully. He also thinks you write very well.
It led to a reasonably short but very productive discussion of the recent relationship troubles we've had, in light of this framework. I read him a highly expurgated (to leave out the details of his flaws) version of my post and I told him that I think I had only recently (in the last couple of years maybe) gotten to where the third part of the relationship was really meaningful. And he agreed that that was the sense that he had gotten from me. (He endorsed the thought VERY strongly, in fact.) That he hadn't had any trouble feeling attachment to me as a person, but that he thought it was only recently that I had reached that level. And we talked about why it felt uncomfortable for me, etc. etc. It was a really nice, comfortable yet productive session.
And I owe that to you. I think we would have struggled and butted heads talking at cross purposes for months (at least) without the beautiful framework you laid that helped me have that ah-hah experience. Which is not to say the issue is entirely laid to rest, but my therapist now understands better why it's coming up again and again at *this* point in the therapy, and I think we'll be able to discuss it more productively.
Thanks again. Your clients are lucky to have you. :)
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