Posted by pegasus on March 2, 2004, at 22:27:55
In reply to What do you think?, posted by Dinah on March 2, 2004, at 16:54:28
Dinah, your "daydreams" sound so fascinating! I have to admit that I've never done anything remotely like that. As I read your description I had a lot of really complicated feelings. On the one hand, I am amazed and impressed at your imagination and creativity. And I'm kind of jealous that you managed to create this really interesting interior world that rescued you from boredom etc. On the other hand, it sounds a little dangerous to spend so much time and creative energy on things that are internal entertainment for yourself alone. I guess I mean that all that time spent in fantasizing means time not spent in your real life. And that's a lot of time not in your real life.
Lately I've been trying to be more aware of what's going on in my real life, and spend less time living in the future and past and in fantasies. This effort was encouraged by my old T. I think the idea is that when you are off in your head, you are missing things that are happening in your real life, good and bad. And I guess missing even bad stuff can cause problems. Here I get a little lost.
But I have a little example of how this effort has helped me recently. I was at an exercise class, a little early, and just laying there on my mat. I was thinking how much I didn't want class to start because I wanted to just lay there and relax. I started thinking about the exercises and how I don't like the teacher, etc. Then I remembered to try to be in the moment. So I let go of those thoughts and just relaxed and enjoyed the feeling of laying there. It was a great little epiphany. I had been ruining my own little moment of relaxation by living just a few minutes in the future instead of in that moment. I find that it takes practice to be able to bring myself in from that type of fantasy.
I don't know if this is helpful, but I thought I'd throw it out there.
- p
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