Posted by Miss Honeychurch on February 26, 2004, at 8:25:17
In reply to Do therapists help you in overcoming transference?, posted by pinkeye on February 25, 2004, at 18:17:26
well, my T, who seems to be an eclectic mix of psychodynamic and CBT, accepted the transference when he learned about it. However, we have not discussed it since. It is actually strange though. The minute I confessed my transference and the minute he just accepted it, and didn't deny my feelings nor encourage them, I found I felt a lot better about the situation and had less intense feelings.
Frankly, I wish he would bring it up, but the "moment of truth" was slightly awkward, I have never brought it up again. Before I brought it up though I brought in Deborah Lott's book for him to read which he said he did and he said he learned a lot about transference from it. It was AFTER he said this that I felt I could bring up my own transference. It is clear though he is uncomfortable about the whole subject though. I wonder if male therapist/female client transference is more scary to the therapist than say female therapist/male client, or therapists and clients of the same sex. Possible lawsuits and such.
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