Posted by Karen_kay on February 24, 2004, at 11:54:18
In reply to Well, I suggested we try challenging again, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2004, at 12:08:44
Dinah my dear...
First of all give Harry a big hug for me and a treat... They can have as many treats as you want, you know...
You did take responsibility for therapy by suggesting more "challenging" and by giving guidelines as to how YOU FEEL it may not interupt your feelings of safety. That's wonderful. Challenge him if he can't accept the fact that you are willing to give in this "give and take" relationship. I'm proud of you for offering more challenging, as it seemed to hurt you last time. Great job on that. If he won't say it, I certainly will!!!!
So, why do you think that he believes you aren't taking responsibility for your therapy? Why would he make that assumption? There has to be a darn good reason for it! Try figuring it out and if you can't ask him why. Maybe you can afford more challenging if you also challenge him? That's something to think about.......
I'm sorry again that he wasn't so "open" to your suggestion. Maybe it made him feel inferior, as you suggested something goood that he didn't previously think up on his own? Possibly, Maybe???
I love ya you know.. And I'm SOOO proud of you for opening that door that last time hit you in the face... You're doing great, and we can all see it too...
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