Posted by DaisyM on February 16, 2004, at 16:57:57
In reply to Marriage counseling and individual therapy, ideas?, posted by Racer on February 16, 2004, at 15:21:31
Well, you didn't say if he did or didn't get the vacuuming done...
It doesn't really matter if he thinks you are going for "your" troubles, he loves you enough to be going. Your Therapist should be handling this attitude. Does she know about it? (I assume you are receiving individual counseling from someone else? ) And like all humans, habits are hard to break so you have to keep asking.
Didn't get the Vacuuming done? "Honey, since I was going to dust after you did the vacuuming and it isn't done yet, I'll go ahead and water the palnts downstairs and if you wouldn't mind, just dust when you get done." No nagging, just matter of fact.
This is way easier said than done, of course! OR, " Honey, did the vacuum give you any trouble upstair? Last time I used it I really had to keep shaking the hose..." Note: I did not say, did you finish? Or when are you going to finish?
*sigh* This is why all women need wives.
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