Posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 18:07:49
In reply to Shame - is my therapist perpetuating it?, posted by Dinah on February 15, 2004, at 12:10:55
I might decide talk to him about it, but only in context. Last session would have been a good time... But I need for it to come up again before I mention it, or he'll make a big deal about *why* I'm bringing it up. And if there's anything I hate, it's the "why are you bringing this up" interrogation.
But I really must say, and I didn't take offense or anything because I didn't really make clear what on earth I was talking about, but I don't see the whole real me as something that should only be exposed in private. I may not be perfect, but I have things to offer that the "good" surface me doesn't. And my therapist will admit that, too. I'm just too literal to be able to understand why he thinks that those parts of me are good, but that they really should only be shown in therapy.
I dunno. Maybe I'd like him to say "I find you delightful, and I wish you would feel more comfortable showing the *you* you show in therapy to the rest of the world."
Which I suppose is a transference pipedream.
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