Posted by DaisyM on February 9, 2004, at 15:41:03
In reply to Being Heard, posted by fallsfall on February 9, 2004, at 13:34:37
Sounds like he was being "optimally frustrated" himself -- :) I'm guessing you are both well-matched intellectually.
Being understood is so much a part of all of this...gratification is nice but it doesn't last nearly as long as the feeling that comes with, "yes, I understand what this need is and I have expressed it in such a way that he understands it too."
So now the trick is to look back over the communication and find the spot where you think he clicked into what you were trying to stay and understood it. It might make things easier in the future when trying to explain things to him. We all have such unique communicatin styles, don't you think?
I'm glad you had such a good session. You needed it!
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