Posted by Karen_kay on February 9, 2004, at 12:01:51
In reply to Re: No, I wasn't wrong, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2004, at 11:08:53
And please do remember (and not that I'm using this as an excuse but Dinah I just love you dearly and sincerely and would hate to lose you so please know that if this sounds a bit wrong, I'm still not all together....)
Now, after that disclaimer...
Can you think of it as dinner... Like you have roast and mashed potatoes and salad and green beans. And even though you hate green beans, you still love the rest of the dinner and have to eat to survive. And the rest of the guests need you at dinner as much as you would love to have dinner with them. Could you politely pick the green beans off your plate?
I'm not trying to minimize your feelings. And I completely understand your point, as I agree and would certainly have no part as well. But we, the dinner guests need you. We would be lost without you. And I know you need us too. And I realize that someone's not taking the voices of very valuable guests into consideration while preapring the meal, and that's not fair. But, do the rest of the guests, especially you have to suffer?
I'm really not at all trying to minimize the situation. I just know that dinner wouldn't taste the same without your company. In fact, it would taste quite sour. It's already beginning to taste that way.
Obviously, the loss of invaluable parts of the dinner guests doesn't hurt the dinner host. Or maybe it does, but the dinner goes on...But, it hurts the other guests. And it hurts them a lot. If you don't believe me, ask Gabbi.(hope you don't mind me bringing you in Gabbi, I just know you don't post much anymore because of people leaving or being "forced" to leave) I know it's hard to stay at a dinner that doesn't taste very good, or the conversation is beginning to sour, but remember things are always changing at this dinner party. But, does that mean the guests have to leave? Other guests need you very much. And I know you need us.
So, please. Pick the green beans to the side. Yell very loud if you have to to say, "I hate green beans, don't serve them!" Wll of us who agree will yell loud with you. Avoid the green beans! But please, don't leave to prove a point when you know things won't change! And you know we need you! Please!
What I'm trying to say is Dinah, you are an invaluable dinner guest. We need you here. And I know you need to be here. I;'m sorry if this doesn't make sense. And I think I'm even sorrier if it does. But please, I'm just saying anything that I can to get you to stay. I know you need to stay as much as we need you to. "Young lady, it's for your own good!" I'm trying to tell you, I love you and would be very sad to see you go. Things just wouldn't be the same. I'm honesty be pacing until I hear from you. And I know it's not as simple as picking green beans of your plate, but maybe we can make it that simple if we have to. If it doesn't work, it may jsut go away, right? Didn't that happen in the past?????? But, you just leaving won't solve a thing, except hurting you, me and everyone else here...... I'm sorry I jsut had to say it girlie..
poster:Karen_kay
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