Posted by 64Bowtie on January 29, 2004, at 15:57:29
In reply to Re: When the relationship ends, posted by Karen_kay on January 29, 2004, at 9:54:00
The question I ask myself at the end of love, inside a loving relationship, which will soon and inevitably end, for me at least, is, "Am I 'enough' to go on? Will I be 'enough' to persevere and withstand no matter what?" I've found not seeing myself as "enough" to withstand and persevere is a bad habit, and I can overcome bad habits by practice, practice, and more practice.
Every day is a new day for me, so I plan my day around what I can add to my life. I no longer feel helpless, and abandoned by my lost love interests.
I've also discovered humility I never had. I am not unique while in or out of a loving relationship.
I've also discovered "timing". Loving relationships work when the timing is right.
I've also discovered baggage. If I make the loving relationship subject to my baggage being accepted no matter what, shortly the relationship ends! If she insists on her baggage....etc. etc. etc.
Dynamic storage of baggage is usually behaviors I can't see or otherwise refuse to curtail. Static storage is like my $75 per month storage shed... Actually most of my static storage contains a bunch of other old relationships I refuse to abolish for the sake of the new relationship.
Today I accept myself as "enough", I work everyday on my timing, and I no longer deny the impact or presence of my baggage(s).
But, that's jes' me....
Rod
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