Posted by gardenergirl on January 21, 2004, at 20:14:38
In reply to Re: Feeling oddly insecure about therapy... » Asya, posted by Dinah on January 21, 2004, at 19:08:43
I too sometimes think that going to therapy feels like an indulgence, and I feel guilty about it at times. Same as getting my monthly massage (which I think really is a necessary indulgence!) But I am finally learning that it's okay to take care of myself and to ask for and work towards obtaining what I need. Anyone who wants to work on or understand something about themselves is entitled to therapy in my book. More power to us for going!
As a psych trainee and a therapy client, I have two bits to offer. First, I know that sometimes I really appreciate having a high functioning client who is working more towards self-actualization. It balances out with those who are in crisis mode, at least for me. I would not want strictly one or the other on my caseload.
Also, the therapy-client relationship is unlike any other. If you think about meeting with anyone else you know, you would usually begin with pleasantries, ask about their day, etc. You would also have more of a two-way street of dialog. You share, they share, and so on and so on. But therapy is very different, and this can feel really odd at first. I sometimes say, "how are you?" before getting started, which usually doesn't get me much. But other times I just jump right in. That's what I'm there for. But it takes time to get used to this feeling and the uniqueness of the relationship.
Take care, and I'm sure you are doing fine!
gg
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