Posted by judy1 on January 21, 2004, at 11:02:53
In reply to Re: marital troubles and therapy angst » Miss Honeychurch, posted by lookdownfish on January 21, 2004, at 8:49:07
I think with 2 little girls and 10 years of marriage, you have a lot to fight for. my husband and I have gone to couples therapy many times, at first he was hesitant (and gave the same reasons your husband did), so I went alone and asked the therp for suggestions on how to get him there. he said to tell him how important our marriage was to me and that I was willing to do whatever I had to do to preserve that. I think once my husband saw that I was going to the therp with or without him (maybe he thought I was saying negative things and wanted to have his voice heard :-), he changed his mind and went. after that first time, he became quite supportive and now we go whenever things flair up (not too often, but it happens). I hope you decide to go and ask the therp for ways to push your husband to attend, hopefully he will agree.
best of luck- judy
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