Posted by Bell_75 on January 19, 2004, at 3:29:21
In reply to thinking too much, posted by Karen_kay on January 18, 2004, at 15:55:33
Well I had an experience that was on the other side of the coin to that one and made me feel abit 'mixed'.
A woman named Rebecca called from the centre my T works at the day before my weekly session at 5pm and said that my therapist wasnt going to be available tomorrow so she had to ring and tell all of his clients but his message was that the same time next week would be fine with him and to leave a message if I had a problem with it.
Now like anyone else in my situation I was stewing over trying to think what it could be that could be causing him to cancel all his sessions for that day. I went through the options of him being ill, illness in the family, death in the family, a sudden emergency etc but then realised i probably wouldnt get an answer anywho.
So I went to my session a week later and he said "oh yeah sorry about cancelling last week" I told him it was fine and he didnt need to apologize etc all he said was "well its not like I didn't have a justifiable reason...I wouldn't have cancelled if I didn't." I find hes always apologetic about the most trivial things even those that are out of his control or even something *I* should be apologizing about.
Then just 2 weeks ago he said as I was leaving "so..I'll see you same time next week? noo I'll have to- no its okay thats wrong'" meanwhile I'm standing looking confused and I said he could change it if he wanted to another time in the day but he said "it was wrong" supposedly meaning his schedule.
Then the day before my next session he rings me at home and asks if i can come in half an hour earlier because he needs to get out on time (we always go overtime) and I said what i later thought i maybe shouldn't have:
"well I told you we could change the time!"
d'oh! He told me hes not good at working out his diary oO one thinks he needs a personal secretary, poor guy. He works in a community health centre in which he "organises" his own scheduling and blah blah.
So we agreed on me coming in earlier then when i saw him that session he said he was all dressed up because he had a job interview that morning but he doesnt think he went well. That also comes into your topic of therapist's disclosing personal info..i was surprised by his candidness but went with it anyway.
What puzzled me was that he said he changed the time because "you know sometimes meetings and things come up at the last minute" yet I noticed he had another client after me and had a job interview that morning which one would think would make him late not needing to finish earlier.
Oh well...now I'M going off on a tangent and I'm supposed to be posting a reply not a post about moi :P sorry. Seems I have the "thinking too much" bug too.
Therapists are funny things yet I know I'd be lost without mine at this moment in my life. Sure someday I'll have to say a cheerio.:) Hope things go well with your T.
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